Marriage between a woman and a fellow woman in Nsukka

By Ekene Ugwuanyi On the course of my investigates in understanding Igbo culture, I have gone over certain perspectives that are very brain blowing and intriguing and one of them is the possibility that a lady can really follow through on the lady of the hour cost of another lady and have her as her significant other. One's responses over hearing this are consistently, 'Why? How?' 

In Nsukka just as in the whole Igbo land and Africa all finished, marriage was set up as a lawful methods for multiplication. As such, the general public made marriage as a perceived manner by which people can multiply and proceed with the ancestry of humankind. 

Each culture has their standards that direct them. In many social orders, the man follows through on the lady cost of the lady and whenever that is done, has hitched her. Therefore, all the kids to be delivered in that association has a place with the man despite the fact that the man just as the lady contributed 23 chromosomes each for the introduction of the kid. Seeing that the man has addressed the lady cost of the lady, the kid answers his name. This is what is possible in Nsukka and Igbo land when all is said in done. 

The ramifications of the above is that men for the most part endeavor to deliver men since they are the ones to wed ladies. It has never been known about that a lady wedded a man or followed through on his lady cost in Igbo land. Consequently, in the times past, a man could wed whatever number as five spouses to create the same number of guys as would be prudent with the goal that his heredity didn't go wiped out. At the point when those guys grow up and wed, their kids would be noting the names of their dads and not their moms. This is so in light of the fact that the spouse followed through on the lady cost. 

Notwithstanding, circumstances do happen when a dad brings forth just female kids and ceases to exist on the cycle. On the off chance that, for example, the man has five youngsters when he kicked the bucket and every one of them are female kids, the suggestion is that when every one of them have separated to their spouses, their dad's ancestry would go terminated. To help give the female youngsters the option to ensure the continuation of their dads' ancestry, the Nsukka culture permits the lady to decline being hitched to a man and begin creating her own kids in her dad's name. How is this done? 

The above is done in two different ways: 

Right off the bat by declining to wed and by having male accomplices. This male accomplices would assist her with bringing up her own kids. Since those men didn't follow through on her lady cost, the kids have a place with the lady and answer the name of her dad. The way of life perceives this, and whenever the lady in the long run bites the dust, her youngsters would acquire their moms' property which was really that of their maternal granddad. 

In my meeting with Mrs. Elema Ugwu, the lady you can see at the image underneath, she said that her mom conceived an offspring seven youngsters and every one of them were female kids. This upset her mom that she needed one of her girls not to wed to create youngsters for her dad. Notwithstanding, Mrs. Elema revealed to me she cannot and disclosed to her mom that on the off chance that it was God's will that she ought to have a male kid, she would have heard a male kid. The woman being referred to got hitched. 

Also, in a circumstance where this single woman can't bring forth a kid, the convention allows her to proceed to follow through on the lady of the hour cost of another lady and wed her into her (the lady value payer) family. At the point when this is done, what she needs to do is just to discover a man that would lay down with her significant other and assist her with bringing up her youngsters. Whenever this is done, the kids created in this association has a place with the female lady value payer. The man has no business with the youngster and the spouse is basically a wife simply like a lady wedded to any man. It is the obligation of her significant other (the lady that addressed her lady of the hour cost) to deal with her and get together with the vital in-law commitments expected of her. This is as yet occurring in Igbo land, in spite of the fact that it's only one out of every odd pieces of Igbo land that perceives the way of life. 

A lady who is hitched to a man can really restore the lady cost of the one who wedded her and re-visitation of her dad's place to engender his ancestry in a circumstance where he kicks the bucket without having a male youngster. This woman, on the off chance that she can't have infants of her own in view old enough, can really follow through on the lady cost of another woman and wed her. 

A lady who can't deliver infants for her significant other can really wed another lady for him to assist her with creating youngsters that would proceed with the man's genealogy. For a situation where the man is weak, a mystery game plan can be made and another man would assist him with creating youngsters for him through the spouse or the recently hitched lady. 

Why the Igbo culture permits a lady to wed in this manner is to similarly give the female youngster the equivalent option to spread and keep up her dad's heredity.